Jaylan Gets Suspended

Well, it happened.

Jaylan has received ISS (In School Suspension) for hitting another student. Turns out that Jaylan was hit in the face with a glue bottle by this student and Jaylan lost control. Jaylan's ISS is because of  abusive behavior.
I just got the message from the school and I had to call my father to calm me down.

The school said this was 'out of character' for Jaylan and how surprised they were to see Jaylan in the office. Thank God.....your character speaks for itself, yet EVERYBODY has a limit - EVERYBODY. I can only imagine the environment in the class because they had a substitute. Hmmm...

I don't know the details, but I can't wait to see Jaylan after school to find out. Sigh...we thought we were finished since Bully X calmed down, and now this.

By the way, Bully X never received any cookies.

Character Cookies

Jaylan has a cookie business and has decided to use his cookies to help spread the importance of character throughout his school. His cookies will also be used to reach those who bully. Everybody needs love and if these children know someone cares, you never know what might happen.

The cookies will come with a small message sharing a particular character trait such as self control, endurance, kindness, initiative, etc...

Today, he has decided to share cookies with the young girl who bullied him. I can't wait to hear what happens or even if he actually does this.

Stay tuned!

Sex Talk on the School Bus

If I had known Jaylan would be taught sex on the school bus, my husband and I would have saved our many talks on sex. Of course I'm being extremely sarcastic.

Jaylan came home one day saying a few boys were laughing at him because he didn't know certain sexual terms such as pulling, finger f$#%& girls, and a few others I refuse to mention. I explained to him that he has been taught correct sexual terms and the street terms were inappropriate. I didn't know some of the sex language myself, so how in the world was I going to teach it? It is so sad that eleven and twelve year olds are exposed to such language. Where does this come from? Home? If you say it comes from other children, they have to learn it from somewhere. It just doesn't fall from the sky.

Anyway, Jaylan was instructed to sit towards the front of the bus instead of the back of the bus, which is where trouble likes to start anyway. One of the boys laughing at him has been his friend for years and even told everyone on the bus that Jaylan liked boys instead of girls. You know what, I was happy this happened because it was an opportunity for Jaylan to realize everyone is not his friend.
He thinks because he is so friendly and caring, everyone else is. Now here is the kicker...the same little boy that told everyone Jaylan likes boys asked to spend the night at our house. Hmmm...another child obviously calling out for help. I go back to my question from a previous post...who really needs the help here?

Homeschool to Public School

After six years of homeschool education, I was led to send Secondborn to school. He was more than excited and set high goals for his grades and conduct. His only concern was being bullied. I don't know if it was a book he read, television, or his friends that put this in his head, but being bullied was his only fear.

Well, Jaylan met his fear -  face to face.

The Beginning

Son:  "I wish there was a school where nobody bothered anybody."

Mother: "I don't think that school will ever exist. Is someone bothering you?"

Son: "Yeah"

Mother: "What's going on?"

Son: eyes full of water  "They talk about my ears, my teeth, and my big head."

This was the beginning of finding out my dear son was getting bullied. Our conversation took place in the kitchen right before leaving to catch the bus - on the second day of school. I hated to send him out the door feeling the way he was, but I did. What I thought was simple, child-like behavior was not. What I thought would cease, continued.

My husband and I spoke with Jaylan daily about Bully X.  We wanted to know what was said and how he handled Bully X taunting him with those unkind words. Of course his teacher was informed and Jaylan personally spoke with the principal about Bully X.

We soon found out Bully X was a girl and immediately thought it might be a simple school girl crush.
We were somewhat relieved.

Fight Back?

A conversation we had one evening while driving home from football practice

Mother: "Have you thought about talking to Bully X?"

Son: "You know what? I think I will."

Mother: "What are you going to say?"

Son: "I'm going to tell her I'm not afraid to hit girls."

Jaylan's Demeanor

Anyone who knows Jaylan knows he is a sweet child full of compassion and he doesn't like to see others mistreated. When he mentioned hitting Bully X, I knew it was more serious than a school girl crush. Jaylan's tolerance was running out.

One thing about Jaylan many do NOT know is that Jaylan will blow up when he has reached his limit. His home nickname is The Julk - a cross between the Hulk and Jaylan. Yes, he can get that angry if you push the wrong  button.
Jaylan on the first day of school. He was so excited he asked me to take pictures of him.

Getting Physical

Although getting bullied, Jaylan comes home with a smile on his face every day. I carefully listen to his words and read his body language because I know he is emotionally bruised. 

One day I asked, as I always do, about Bully X. This particular day, Bully X had a friend (another girl) and they came behind Jaylan after school, hit him in his back, laughed and ran. I'm more than thankful that Jaylan didn't run behind the girls and beat the you know what out of them. Jaylan was taught not to hit girls under any circumstances. He was taught to walk away. Hmmm...should I rethink this training? Right now, I feel like finding this girl and beating the heck out of her myself. Yes, this was my initial reaction.....

Stay tuned...

Who Really Needs Help?

As it turns out, this little girl is bullying more than one child at school. Unfortunately, another parent has already pressed charges against her. It's strange, but my emotions have made a turn. My concern is for this child doing the bullying. She obviously needs help, yet not every bully can be helped. Many come from environments where there is no love or security. There may even be abuse in the home. Hmmm...what about the children? So many are crying out for help. Who is helping these children.

Stay tuned...Jaylan's bus rides turn into sex talk sessions